This post is a little different from the others, for a couple of reasons. First – it’s a start of a series that I hope to do every week from now on. Second – we’ll be completely honest here. Yes, not just me, you too.
If you’ve read my previous posts, you’ll know that I want more honesty in real life and on the internet. I am not talking about sharing our addresses, phone or PIN numbers, don’t worry. I mean honesty about life – how we look, live and feel. And here’s why.
These and similar questions pop into my mind at least every few days, if not every day:
Am I doing life wrong? Or is there something wrong with me? Why are all the people around me doing so much better in life? Why do other people look so much better than me? Where do they find time and money to travel to such beautiful places? How do they afford going to all those parties and restaurants every week?
How come they have it all figured out and I don’t?
I’ve thought about this a lot. Whenever I go on Twitter – I see people who somehow come up with the wisest and funniest things; when I go to Instagram – I see the most breathtaking places and beautiful people living their perfect lives – looking perfect, living in a perfect, beautiful home, with perfect friends. The selfies are always from the perfect angle, there’s never any fighting with friends or loved ones and their home is always clean and tidy.
Then, a while back now, I saw an Instagram post of my old classmate. It was a selfie of her and underneath it said: “My life is perfect and it gets better and better with every day.” This made me laugh. I mean, I really hope it’s true – everyone deserves to have a great life. But it also made me think – how much truth is behind these posts? I don’t know the problems and life struggles that people in those pictures face every day. All I know is what they pick and choose to show.
And this is why I decided to start being more honest myself. This is where the hard part begins. It should be the easiest thing to write about, but for some reason it is very hard. I guess it has something to do with breaking old habits. It almost feels like fighting an addiction (like smoking or eating too much sugar), every cell of my brain keeps telling me: “Don’t do this!” But I don’t care what people think anymore. I am happy with my life and grateful for what I do have.
My life is not perfect. I don’t live in the perfect home, I don’t work in my dream job, I don’t get to go on fancy holidays and travel around the world. I am 23 years old now and I’m still not 100% sure what I want to do with my life. My ‘5 Year Plan’ has at least 7 different versions, they all change monthly and I never know which one I want or should go for. I believe there is no right way to do life. As long as you always do what feels right to yourself and you’re happy – that’s all that matters. Never compare your life to others. You see your own life in full detail, but only get to see a tiny fraction of others. That’s not a fair comparison.
I want this to be a place where we can be honest with each other, share our stories and experiences, inspire and support each other without hate or judgement. Starting next week you’ll have a chance to get to know the real me. If that’s not something you’re interested in – I’ll still be writing my usual posts too.
Thank you for reading!
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