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I find happiness to be a little weird. If you asked me – “What is it that you want the most in life?” I would always reply – “To be happy.” But the problem with happiness is that it always changes. Not the feeling of being happy, but the source of it. The things that would have made me happy fifteen years ago, are not going to make me happy now. Having a cool tree-house in my back yard won’t make me the happiest person on earth anymore. Although it would be pretty cool, I have to admit. Sometimes it’s even hours or minutes that change everything. So how do you stay happy, if it keeps changing all the time?
It took me a very long time to realize that I actually have a choice in the matter. If I check in with myself every once in a while and keep track of everything that makes me feel unhappy, I have the power to get rid of those things. I never thought I could do that and I was too scared to ask and try to explain people why I had to do or avoid certain things. I thought showing that there are things I don’t want in my life, would make others think I’m weak. Until very recently.
I chose to be oblivious. I don’t read the news. I get by with my notifications with most important news items and some bits of news I hear on the radio and it’s enough for me. If there is anything I want to know – I’ll do my own research. Instead, I follow blogs and people that share positive achievements and help others.
I lost people. I find it hard to let go of things. I have a whole big box of things that I have no use for, but can’t throw out only because maybe I might find them useful one day. In the same way I used to stay in touch and follow people on social media. Now I have a new rule: If you’re constantly rude to me or others – we have nothing to talk about. I don’t need that kind of negativity in my life. Instead, I spend more time with people who make me smile even hours after our conversation is over.
I learned to say no. This has always been hard for me. I’m a People Pleaser and if there is anything I can do for someone, I would rather bend over backwards trying to please them than say no to their request. But it could only last so long. Now I don’t feel guilty anymore because I’ve said yes and then weren’t able to fulfill my promise. And I don’t over-promise anymore. I know how much I can do and I don’t try to cross that line anymore. And it feels amazing.
I started taking care of myself. I wasn’t happy with how much I’ve let myself go over the years and how unfit I’ve become, so I started exercising. I wanted to do the things that make me happy without being tired before even leaving home. And I’ve finally started going to the doctor if there’s something wrong, instead of pretending it’s not there and waiting for it to go away. I can’t say I’m feeling better than ever, but I’m definitely feeling better with every day.
I chose to be strong.
I chose to be happy.
Being happy requires constant work. Nothing happens without it. Unless you’re incredibly lucky. So let me know – what are your thoughts on happiness? Are you happy?
It was impossible for me to keep writing something every day, so from now on I’m going for twice a week. We’ll see how it goes and adjust accordingly.
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